On becoming your mother


There’s an interesting phenomenon in the aging process, eventually most women end up becoming their mother. I can’t identify the precise age of the metamorphosis, and I will allow that the transition doesn’t make over every last piece of your personality, but it’s real.

I’ve tried to deny it, not because I don't love my mom, but out of some misguided belief that I am the shaper of my own style and quirks. HA!  I’m sure my daughter will fight this categorization as well, but like the changing of the tides and the collapse of Atlanta sports teams, it’s unavoidable.


Just the other day I was using my hands to explain something and I made a little flip of my wrist precisely the way my mom flips her wrist.

I felt like I was having an out-of-body experience. However, what really makes me see my mom is how the little voice in my head absolutely sounds like Mom.

Since you can’t hear it, I thought I’d share a list of the things the voice says:

  • Take a picture!
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  • Go for a swim.
  • It’s only a 20-minute drive.
  • Let’s order a pizza!
  • I’m sure there’s enough gas in the car.
  • Who cares about the mess? Have fun!
  • Hahahahahahaha!! (The “be a good audience” instruction.)
  • Invite them over for dinner.
  • This dish needs a little avocado.
  • Why not?
  • I bet this route is shorter.
  • I should really start another book.
  • WHY did they write “your” when they meant “you’re”????!!!!!!!!!!!
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  • So it’s root root root for the DODGERS!!!!
  • Ask them to stay at our house.
  • Who? What? When? Where? Why? (The “be a good interviewer” instruction.)
  • Suck it up.
  • If you don’t do anything else, make your bed!
  • Why are you talking to a man when he’s hungry???
  • It’s only money.
  • Plant a garden already.
  • Avoid the passive voice, never type etc., and embrace the Oxford comma.
  • Pay attention to sunsets.
  • Love God.

And, naturally:

Call your mother.

As a woman, whether your mom is with you or not, you are carrying her imprint. Embrace and honor her legacy (avocado cravings and all).

Happy Mother's Day Mom!!  You're the best!